It is extreme and far-reaching, and it has the power to change the world. It defies any one definition; there are so many ways to love. As Valentine’s Day gets closer, we decided we don’t want to limit ourselves by celebrating just one kind of love.

TomboyX was created to represent all bodies and identities, to give options to those who weren't being represented. We make our undies out of love, and that is the foundation of everything we do.

We gathered members of the TomboyX community for a photo shoot, and asked them:




Love is the ability to be your whole, authentic self to another individual and they will show you respect, authenticity, and loyalty in return.  It can be with a friend, family member, or a lover.  You can show them all of who you are with 100% honesty and they will still, genuinely, show you love through their actions. 



One day I realized I was in a place where I stopped feeling misunderstood and felt free. So damn free. A freedom that I had never had in my whole life. This kind of love makes mermaids believe they can walk on land someday. My love makes me feel like I can do anything. She has made me a part of the best love story of all time.



To me, love in any form means unconditional support. This means supporting change across the lifespan and in habits and situations that aren't helpful more than it means being the cheerleader no matter what. This is a difficult task, because supporting change can mean letting those we love fail so they can grow (something I struggle with). This unconditional support is something I try to apply to all my loving relationships - from my partner to my community to my pets! 



Love to me is one of those essential parts of life: when it's done right, it's just as healthy and necessary as exercise and eating right. Without love, life is just incomplete, which is why I try to find it - whatever form it may take - wherever and in whoever I can.



For me love means sacrifice and choice.  



Love: whether it's romantic or beyond I believe love starts with respect. It means being kind to others, thoughtful with words and actions, and that ever lasting cliche of treat others like you want to be treated. 



Love means knowing that my insecurities are no longer blisters. I had seen insecurities, in the past, as being the raw spots of myself I was afraid to expose to light or air. Being loved has changed all that. It would make sense to think these blisters had calloused; but it's not like that. It's like they were never there at all. Like I can look at my palms and remember where they were once tender and ached, but I can't remember what I did to get them that way. Being loved is having soft spots again.


Comment below and tell is what love means to you...



  • Kathleen Devaney

    Love is being genuine. It is about being accepted wholly and accepting wholly — no reservations, all of the parts that make you who you are, and all of the parts that make who you love who they are, and taking nothing for granted.

  • BethAnn Scharp

    Love Is Love!
    It doesn’t matter who you choose to love, we’re all human beings and we deserve that basic right..
    Regardless of one’s gender identity or sexual orientation..
    Love should come from the heart, mind, and soul..
    Not from what is or isn’t below the belt..

  • J. Brown

    After reading the comments from TomboyX’ers about what love means to them, I am reminded of a quote by Maya Angelou:
    “Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope. In the flush of love’s light, we dare be brave. And suddenly we see that love costs all we are, and will ever be. Yet it is only love which sets us free.”
    So when it comes to love, yes, I’m the fearless long-jumper, high-jumper, hurdler and demolitionist all bundled in one-but, I’M ALSO FREE!

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